Missing Him

[LadyLucy offline]

It's sad, really. For those that know me, and know about the fact that Neo Aguni and I are a couple, here's a little fact that nobody else knows: one lives in P.A., one...*sighs* lives in G.A. Yep. Georiga. At least four states away, and it's always been that way. We met *sheepish grin* on ff.net through e-mail. Some think it's impossiable to fall in love with some one over 10,000 miles away, and through Internet. Send them to me. I will set them straight.
We were first in contact in early december 2005, and finally got together in June. June 15th, to be exact. My favorite day of the year.
It's been 9 wonderful months since we admitted our...feelings, and I love him with all my heart. Let me tell you something. It hurts.
I love him. He's three years older. I love him. He's far away. I still love him. Why?
Fate.
Love keeps me going, but I still haven't found a way to make missing him hurt less. We talk on the phone when ever possiable, and that helps a bit. I know he's getting a job to make money so he can come down, but we don't know how long that will take, since he's still in collage.
Does any one have any advice?

[The BB of C offline]

Okay, unless I wish to start another war, I'm not touching this here with a 100 foot pole.

[. offline]

Its not so much that you can't fall in love with someone threw the net, it's more of you shouldn't because they're are alot of sick freaks out there.

I'm gonna assume by your wording that you've all ready met this Neo in person? And I'm gonna assume more so that Neo is his real name?

.....How old are you? O.o

[Skorpigeist offline]

"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down."
- Woody Allen


I don't know why, but that quote came to my mind as I read your post. I really can't tell you how to ease the pain other than to

A. force yourself not think about it
B. do things that accomplish A naturally

I hope that the situation gets easier for you, or that the two of you can still draw on the strength of your feelings to keep it going. ( im a hopeless romantic). if it is meant to be, then things should work out in the end.

[LadyLucy offline]

No, Neo isn't his real name, but I always call him that. It's Nathan, and I'm Vanessa. We use our pen names for like...everything.

We've only been together over the phone, but I know the risks of internet already. THere is proof beyond proof that we are who we are..I hear his voice, I see his face. THat's all I need. I can tell it's him. He has a sweet southern accent. Also he's irish, and he has pretty green eyes... okay, I'll stop gushing.
Don't worry dude, I"m a romantic too...If I wasn't, I wouldn't be writting this.
Is it pathetic that I'm already making plans for what we can do (no pervy thoughts!!!lol ) once he gets her? That's what I've been doing...heh
Thank you.

[emoBillâ„¢ offline]

Hehe... I have a BF over the net too! Awesome! *huggles Lucy* His name's Tyler... and he lives in C.A. and I live in N.J. Try that on for size! But we're the same age, and we PM each other and send letters and sometimes talk on the phone... and everything you said... and he even sent me his school picture... he's so cute ^_^ OK, I'll stop.

Well, just look forward to the fact that he'll be coming soon, so until then you can just keep your relatioship strong. I might be able to meet Tyler on June 15th on his school field trip to P.A. So just keep making sure you guys keep talking to each other, you shouldn't miss him all that much, just keep talking to him ^_^

Do you live in P.A.? That would be so awesome, since I've visited it and we would live right next to each other!

[. offline]

Ah to be 13 again and be able to do this kind of stuff lol...

Ahhhh well, what can ya do? Just be careful with the net children. Thats all I can say.

[emoBillâ„¢ offline]

I'm 13 ^_^

Yeah, I believe Lucy that he's not like a rapist or whatever, but you've got to be careful about online relationships.

[LadyLucy offline]

Yeah, i know what you mean. my parents are so stressing that right now, cause I'm finally allowed on the .net at school...

Yeah, I live in P.A. I love N.J.!!! We go there every summer...I saw dolphins once, and it was awesome. Heh. I'm an animal freak.

[Rail Runner offline]

girls, a word of caution from someone who has been there.

and get this good.....it may look like one thing now, but it will definitely turn out to be something different. I totally regret going to cali over a girl, it looked fine at the time, but it turned horrible once I got there, you dont know enough about the other person to say if its completely real yet. Im 22, trust me, Ive learned how things work. Just be careful, and fully evaluate your decisions before you act. I would hate to see two good friends, and yes I do consider yall friends, get hurt because of someone that you havent spent time with in person. Just my 42 cents.

[emoBillâ„¢ offline]

Neat! I've gone to P.A. a couple times. Where do you live, like what part? City, etc. We could write each other and it would take about a day ^_^ With Tyler it takes 3 days >_>

Wow, dolphins? That's awesome, why haven't I ever seen dolphins here? X_x

[Rail Runner offline]

I hope my post didnt seem harsh, just friendly advice.

[emoBillâ„¢ offline]

Sorry for ignoring it, you posted it right before me ^^;

[LadyLucy offline]

I live in a boring little town called Athens. Aka...methvalley... Don't worry, I'm not a methe person. Just half of the population is...

Thank you for the advice, by the way, Virt. STI

[emoBillâ„¢ offline]

OMG I THINK I'VE BEEN THERE! MY GRANDMA PAT LIVES THERE! I think...

[Rail Runner offline]

no problem...im glad I can help people with their problems...it makes me feel better knowing that I can save someone from the same trouble that I went through.

[LadyLucy offline]

hehehe...I have lots of problems...most of 'em just deal with the fact that I AM INSANE!!!

[Rail Runner offline]

thats ok, we are all insane..especially here on Lyoko Freaks. We feel right at home here dont we.

[emoBillâ„¢ offline]

Hehe... see you are already cheering up, Lucy!

[Rail Runner offline]

if someone needs to be cheered up...just pm me..i can share a funny story that will make you laugh so hard.

[. offline]

thats ok, we are all insane..especially here on Lyoko Freaks. We feel right at home here dont we.

Or are we the sane among the insanity?

[Paige offline]

Okay, unless I wish to start another war, I'm not touching this here with a 100 foot pole.

Amen.

[The BB of C offline]

On the other hand, forget that. It looks like I've got a couple people that agree with me.
I don't think there's much I can do at this point. But I've seen people get SERIOUSLY upset because of situations like this. My OMEGA INSTRUCTOR for instance. A good friend of mine. Talks to this girl online. Has an offline girlfriend. Galeria (online) found out about it and was complaining to me just last week about how hurt she was.
People have to realize that other people are almost never who they say they are online. Every now and then you get an honest person like me, or LucyMcGonagle. But that doesn't account for everyone else on the web. This person, though you've seen, heard, and talked to him before, is probably a darn good actor. I would say 'Don't get too involved' but it's too late for that. What I can say now:
No matter how sure you are, use the BB of C. Respect all odds equally, no matter how adversely one may compare to the other. Or in simpler ways; always expect the unexpected. No matter how sure you are!

[Chosen_one offline]

Yes, I agree. Last year when I was in sixth grade, I saw this guy on a chatroom from a Pokémon fan-game client... I thought he was a white, average 11-year old, but he said he was in 8th grade, that he was black, really popular, plays the electric guitar, and half of the girls he broke up with grew to be lesbians... I really don't think that's entirely true. His screen name was Aeroblast.

This other guy asked him to join his band, and Aeroblast was ranting on about how he was going to meet some other guy and start a rock band that's going to be so popular. After about a week, I never saw him again. Maybe he outgrew Pokémon rather quickly (although that's highly unlikely), maybe they really did start a band, or maybe something bad happened...

All I'm saying is that people you meet on the internet can be deceiving. Your boyfriend could be totally different than the way he described himself, so don't be too surprised if, when you meet him, you receive something you didn't expect.

[The BB of C offline]

Well, it's obvious this person isnt saying hes 19 or 20 and really is an old man. But his personality could be very different face-to-face with him. He could be flat up crazy.