Bullying stoped my life don't let it stop yours

[Mewberries151]

Violence is never the answer.

That's not really true, Oddsgrlfriend. Especially in scholastic social situations, a good fight can fix a lot. I've been in a lot of very serious fights and once I got done with my opponent, we never had problems again. Though nobody likes violance and everyone wants this to be a peaceful world, every now and then something arises where you have to "get dirty with the people spreading the dirt."

Actually, to me that doesn't sound true either. Violence may 'work' for some people, but, from what I've seen, it's only a temporary fix...until that person either gets strong enough to get payback, or until they can find someone who is stronger and do that for them. It's not a permanent fix, at least in my own experience.

I agree with you, Oddsgrlfriend. Violence only leads to more violence in the end and it's certainly not the answer (neither is changing yourself to please someone else for that matter). What is, is going for help, letting adults handle it (depending on ones age) or the authorities. As they used to say on Doug, "Show me a person who resorts to violence, and I'll show you a person who's run out of good ideas." ^^ I miss that show...classic nick toon... ^_^

[mooshie offline]

not to sound contrary, but fighting back often does work, it's not so much the violence as showing them that you are willing to stand up for yourself, telling an adult is just opening yourself up to criticism, that will get you bullied even more, but that's just in my experience, so, use your best judgement

[Mewberries151]

not to sound contrary, but fighting back often does work, it's not so much the violence as showing them that you are willing to stand up for yourself, telling an adult is just opening yourself up to criticism, that will get you bullied even more, but that's just in my experience, so, use your best judgement

That's the common misconception for me really, that asking for help just makes you look weak or makes you more open to criticism. One should never ever be afraid to ask for help when it's needed...and there are always going to be people who love and care about you that will want to help you, and would want to know if you're being hurt. Friends, family, teachers...it won't matter.

There's fighting back (as in physically attacking the person) and then there's fighting back in which one stands up for oneself and takes responsibility...whether that means going for help when it's obvious that it's needed or simply persevering and continuing being the person one is on the inside and ignoring the peanut gallery that's trying to get your goat.

But fighting back (the physical one) really doesn't solve anything...plus it gets you into more trouble usually, not just with the people you attacked, but also the people who could have helped you (teachers, other school staff) and will likely disappoint or concern those that care about you (family, friends).

I just don't feel that fighting is the answer...and I really don't agree with encouraging violence. There's enough of it in this world as it is.

This is just my own opinion though and my own advice on this particular situation. Nothing more. ^^

[Ghost Guest offline]

I must say, Mewberries, I like the way you write... and you're absolutely right, there's too much violence in this world already, the least thing we need is more of it.

[Paige offline]

I must say, Mewberries, I like the way you write... and you're absolutely right, there's too much violence in this world already, the least thing we need is more of it.

I completely agree with both things you said there BJB.

[Mewberries151]

I must say, Mewberries, I like the way you write... and you're absolutely right, there's too much violence in this world already, the least thing we need is more of it.

I completely agree with both things you said there BJB.

Aw, well thanks very much to the both of you. ^_^

Anyway though, Lyoko Soldier, I do hope that these people leave you alone and soon. *comfort hug*

[Tom Bone offline]

Anyway though, Lyoko Soldier, I do hope that these people leave you alone and soon. *comfort hug*

Ditto.

[Dairall offline]

I'd agreeing with odsgrfriend here. Violence is never the answer.. I went through the same problem. I spend longer on my pc than I'm in school. And the worst of all, I have NO mates for the last couple of years. And even worse, I still get bullied. I haven't left the house without any one whatoever lately. My younger brother, beat up a kid a year older than him. He moved 1 week later. I think starting a new life, of turn it back to the way before. I hope you find this useful.

[4lpha0mega offline]

I'd agreeing with odsgrfriend here. Violence is never the answer.. I went through the same problem. I spend longer on my pc than I'm in school.

I'd argue with that, i got into a fight a couple of years ago and im still freinds with the guy, usually fights arnt really taken that seriously anyway
Oh, and i spend up to 9hours a day on my pc not that big-a deal

[Lyoko SA80 offline]

I must say, Mewberries, I like the way you write... and you're absolutely right, there's too much violence in this world already, the least thing we need is more of it.

I completely agree with both things you said there BJB.

Aw, well thanks very much to the both of you. ^_^

Anyway though, Lyoko Soldier, I do hope that these people leave you alone and soon. *comfort hug*

Ok thanks for the cheering up .One thing I have learn't during this time is to be stong and belive want your hearts is trying to say to you.
To be horest I havn't hit everyone in life and I not starting to.Code lyoko has been there for me always .I know this is going off topic but the gang fight against xana .Why didn't there try and speak to him(well that of my chest).I learn't during my life at school is good stong hearts and words of hope from friends and family can help you go though a depressing time and that .But the probelm is I lived in dundee for a year nowand still have no friends close to home .But I still got friends near by here on lyokofreak you all are friend in my case and that means alot to me .With mr T helping me with sending me DVDs and Ms o by having a stong and caring heart as well find out she can't join the navy .Plus The vocie actors voice of Urich who I not found contract but still keep me on a good course .Thank to you all I feeling alot better.(My longest reply yet .Suprise )

Thanks you all

[The BB of C offline]

Don't let the forums be your whole life. It may seem good now but you're only asking for trouble if your life is anything online.

[Lyoko SA80 offline]

Problem is I got nothing better to do

[MY85 offline]

Problem is I got nothing better to do

Ahem... travelling around the world sucks? (Just to point out a little example)

[Lyoko SA80 offline]

I got no money and bored all the time.I tried drawing manga,Watching DVDs,clean the house .But I'm still bored

[Mewberries151]

I got no money and bored all the time.I tried drawing manga,Watching DVDs,clean the house .But I'm still bored

Hmmm...that is a bit of dilemma. I'm assuming you can't really do alot of things outside...you did say that your neighborhood isn't very safe, didn't you? That would make it a bit tough.

Um, how about volunteering at a local community center or SPCA (depending on your interests)? As silly as it may sound, volunteer work can be alot of fun. You meet alot of people that you can become friends with and you're helping yourself and/or others (depending on the project or center you join).

You're interested in drawing manga, and you're 16 right? Why not inquire about a part time job at a community center as an art specialist and teach kids to draw manga? That's helpful, you're doing something you like to do (draw manga) and...it looks good on your resume.

[GOGOLINIICHAN! offline]

How old are you? Because if you're bored and have no money, get a job. I'm trying to get one this summer so that I have something to do and a little bit of money for myself. It will really help you to feel like you have a purpose to get up and go to work everyday; even moreso if you like the job you get.

[Lyoko SA80 offline]

Thanks for the idreas but the problem is during the time beening bullted and that my mum has seem to find. I have like a banner. Is has stop most people getting passed . Stressing thing about it is people who get passed are how can I put it non active people.Dure to this I started to lose my activceness and becoming odd like and with out the humour.A nerd,couch pototoe,lazy person .This is scarying me of all things .The good thing that has happen is .I restarted body combat and trying to get out more .but the neighood hasn't change.I love manga but bot very good at it .I'm embassed to put it on the site or evrey site .I turning to a useless person.I need money but to lazy to find a job and to pick of jobs .I start to really scary my parants aswell as I always upstair watching dvds or on the computer.Now I now that not a goood way to spend your hoildays .


I going to take mewberries151 advice and volunteer of something but I don't know if it's going to work.I scaryed as it is but I going to do it .Thinking abiout it would ulrich be scary aboutt fight to save yumi and that no I going to fight it .But one thing I can say is Linii-chans advice is also very good but I feel that Mewberries is the best .But I going to finded a job someday.

[The BB of C offline]

Come now, man, just do it. If you truely want anything to change, you'll just do it. That's all there is to it.

[Mewberries151]

I going to take mewberries151 advice and volunteer of something but I don't know if it's going to work.I scaryed as it is but I going to do it .Thinking abiout it would ulrich be scary aboutt fight to save yumi and that no I going to fight it .But one thing I can say is Linii-chans advice is also very good but I feel that Mewberries is the best .But I going to finded a job someday.

Best of luck my friend! Fight the good fight and enjoy life! ^_^ I know you can do it!

[Lyoko SA80 offline]

Thanks .Didn't tell you .I'm waiting for money from the the past 6 months and the funniest thing about it is I still waiting .Man the goverment sucks big time .I still trying to find details about volunteering but I beening told it a silm chance I will not get a chance .Ouch.

[oddson offline]

fell sorry for ya i got bullyed but it stoped just tell pepole who can do some thing about it or you will have to get vilont

[oddson offline]

Good news I volunteered for the RNLI lifeboats yesterday waiting for thew news and that plus I still looking for things to do

But the badnews is that I hit a all time low.I ate nothing 2 days along (friday).I now found words to descide how I feeling now and when I mentally low.

Depressed
Loneless
stress
Pure anger
Fear

I know thisis link to this topic as you guys are the only one's to help me

[Lyoko SA80 offline]

Good news I volunteered for the RNLI lifeboats yesterday waiting for thew news and that plus I still looking for things to do

But the badnews is that I hit a all time low.I ate nothing 2 days along (friday).I now found words to descide how I feeling now and when I mentally low.

Depressed
Loneless
stress
Pure anger
Fear

I know thisis link to this topic as you guys are the only one's to help me

Sorry guys/girl .My brother didn't log out

[oddson offline]

sorry lyoko solider i was in a rush to get out



From the real Oddson (ONE AND ONLY )

[. offline]

Violence is never the answer.

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